1 Mother 2 Another

Cora’s now somewhat confident in her
ability to feed herself; her manual skills have gotten much better;
she can pincer grasp like a pro and (almost) always gets the food
into the mouth on the first try. Combine that with a few teeth and
a lot of practice eating solid foods, and she’s become a
somewhat independent eater – I rarely have to spoon feed her,
preferring instead to simply dice up whatever we’re having
and allow her to eat with her hands.


This is well and good, except that it’s coinciding with
another shift: she’s getting less of her “meals”
from breast milk and more from solids while growing at an
astonishing rate, which means she’s hungrier more often and
moving into needing consistent snack times.


Unfortunately, those snack times often seem to be during a car
ride.

Just as a reminder – I’m
giving away another copy of href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FHealthy-Child-World-Creating-Cleaner%2Fdp%2F0525950478%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3Dbooks%26qid%3D1209357069%26sr%3D1-1&tag=1mother2anoth-20&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325"
target="_blank">Healthy Child, Healthy World: Creating A Cleaner,
Greener, Safer World courtesy of the Healthy Child
organization. Email me if you’re interested and I’ll
draw the winner this weekend –


And today’s our final wrap-up for Earth Week. I’ve had
reader tips filtering in for several days now; many of them
I’ve covered last week in my entries. But here are a few more
for you to chew on:

No time to chat right now –
I’m busy running back to Ben and Jerry’s for their
endless Free Cone Day. But I wanted to pass two things along
–


First, it’s FREE CONE DAY AT BEN AND JERRY’S!!! Why are
you still here? Get to B&J for your free cone, pronto!


Second, I had such a great response to the href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FHealthy-Child-World-Creating-Cleaner%2Fdp%2F0525950478%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3Dbooks%26qid%3D1209357069%26sr%3D1-1&tag=1mother2anoth-20&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325"
target="_blank">Healthy Child, Healthy World: Creating A Cleaner,
Greener, Safer World book giveaway that the
organization is graciously donating another copy to give out. If
you already emailed me saying you’d like to win, don’t
worry; you’re in this drawing (unless your name is Stephanie
Pearson and you won a copy yesterday!) If you’d like to throw
your hat in the ring this time around, email me before the weekend
and you’re good to go.


Tomorrow, if I can waddle my ice cream-satiated body to the
computer, I’ll post all the tips I received from all you
parents out there. And then it’s back to my favorite subject
– my amazing kids.

Ok, before I forget I have to tell you
this – tomorrow, Tuesday April 29, is Free Cone Day at Ben
and Jerry’s ice cream stores. All across the country, you can
get a free scoop of ice cream. Just show up! And here’s the
best part – you can get as many as you want. The only catch
is you have to get one scoop, eat it, and come back – no
getting 50 scoops at once. Totally worth going out for, huh? Click
href="http://www.benandjerrys.com/scoop_shops/store_locator/index.cfm"
target="_blank">here to find a store near you.


Now, on to the Earth Week contest results. In the contest for the
best conservation tip, the winner is Michelle Parlette!
Michelle’s tip – to take a shower with both kids and
share shampoo on each head – is inspired, saving water, time,
and shampoo. Talk about mommy multi-tasking. So congratulations,
Michelle! You’ve won a very cool “Keep It Clean”
t-shirt from target="_blank">Mamaisms.


And the winner of our random drawing for a copy of the new
“Healthy Child, Healthy World: Creating A Cleaner,
Greener, Safer World” is Stephanie Pearson!
Stephanie’s new book is a great reference book for parents
looking to raise their children in a safer, healthier environment,
and is courtesy of target="_blank">Healthy Child, Healthy World, the nonprofit
organization dedicated to supporting and informing parents like us.
Congratulations, you two!

Maddie and Cora’s adorable antics
will be back next week, but it’s Earth Week all week here at
1M2A! And don’t forget- send me an email
(Jennifer@1mother2another.com) if you’re interested in
entering to win a free copy of the new Healthy Child, Healthy
World: Creating A Cleaner, Greener, Safer Home. And to win a
cool t-shirt from Mamaisms, send or post your best tip for living a
more eco-friendly lifestyle (see Monday’s blog for more
details!)


So far this week we’ve covered the three R’s of
environmental responsibility: Reduce, Reuse, and Recycle. Tonight
we add a fourth R that we as parents are especially responsible
for: Raising up the next generation. Whether it’s creating a
healthier home environment for our children, investigating the
materials we use on and around our children, or teaching our kids
how to be good stewards of the created earth, our job is many-fold
and never ends.

Maddie and Cora’s adorable antics
will be back next week, but it’s Earth Week all week here at
1M2A! And don’t forget- send me an email
(Jennifer@1mother2another.com) if you’re interested in
entering to win a free copy of the new Healthy Child, Healthy
World: Creating A Cleaner, Greener, Safer Home. And to win a
cool t-shirt from Mamaisms, send or post your best tip for living a
more eco-friendly lifestyle (see Monday’s blog for more
details!)


So far we’ve talked about ways to reduce the amount of waste
we produce, as well as ways to reuse what we’ve already got.
So if we’re doing this right, your trash pile is already
considerably smaller. But when things finally come to the end of
their useful life, we have to look at how to dispose of them
responsibly. Which means it’s time to talk about our
recycling options!

Maddie and Cora’s adorable antics
will be back next week, but it’s Earth Week all week here at
1M2A! And as a reminder, send me an email
(Jennifer@1mother2another.com) if you’re interested in
entering to win a free copy of the new Healthy Child, Healthy
World: Creating A Cleaner, Greener, Safer Home. And to win a cool
t-shirt from Mamaisms, send or post your best tip for living a more
eco-friendly lifestyle (see yesterday’s blog for more
details!)


Today we’re talking about how we can reuse what we’ve
already got, rather than buying new and throwing the old into the
landfill. Obviously we’d like to reduce the amount of junk
that’s out there (see yesterday’s blog), burning less
resources to create less consumables. But once you’ve got
something, here are some ideas for ways to make your things stretch
a bit further – and help stretch our resources at the same
time. And no, this isn’t an article about making picture
frames out of cd cases. Sorry – that’s just not me.

Maddie and Cora’s adorable antics
will be back next week, but it’s Earth Week all week here at
1M2A! And as a reminder, send me an email
(Jennifer@1mother2another.com) if you’re interested in
entering to win a free copy of the new Healthy Child, Healthy
World: Creating A Cleaner, Greener, Safer Home. And to win a
cool t-shirt from target="_blank">Mamaisms, send or post your best tip for
living a more eco-friendly lifestyle (see yesterday’s blog
for more details!)


Today I’m covering several ways we can reduce our impact on
the created earth. Look, everyone knows cloth diapers are better
than disposable; there’s no argument, and you’re either
going to use them or you’re not. I’m not going to wade
into that dispute or tell you to start composting your
toddler’s poops. But there are some easy lifestyle changes
you can make to begin shrinking the size of your carbon footprint
– how much of the earth’s resources you personally use
up - without sacrificing much money or time. So let’s dive
in! As a caveat – I’ve spent a good month researching
these tips and digging up statistics, but I’m way too tired
at 2 a.m. as I page-surf to write all my footnotes and sources
down. So trust me that I’m getting my info from reputable
sites. You know I do all the digging so you don’t have
to.

About a month ago I started doing research
for a piece I was writing for Earth Day, looking for
parent-friendly tips for recycling, reducing our impact on the
Earth, saving energy and so forth. The longer I dug, the more I
realized I simply couldn’t cover it all in one day.


Being good stewards of the created Earth is imperative, for our
kids’ generation but also for our own. I’m not going to
give you all the rousing environmental speeches here – we all
know we need to be better at this whole eco-friendly thing. But
being environmentally responsible often feels like a lot more work
and a lot more money, and the results seem intangible, so we give
up before we really start.

About a month ago I decided our family
needed a kids’ wagon: with our community pool opening in May
I’ve been planning ahead for the daily treks, ordering
swimsuits and sunscreen and cover-ups and such, and realized
I’d need something to haul all that gear back and forth.
Since it’s less than a mile to the pool I refuse to drive
there, but also have no desire to become a pack mule, laden with
droopy toddlers and squirmy babies, towels, water bottles, and so
on.


Hence the wagon decision.

Yesterday being Wednesday, we hit Open Gym
for the morning; if there’s one thing Maddie’s internal
alarm clock is set for, it’s Wednesday’s gym time. And
while we had a good time, it wasn’t just the kids who got all
worked up.


I noticed when we walked in that it was unusually crowded (I say as
if I’m some sort of seasoned veteran, since I’ve been
going there for two whole months now); it looked as if there were
at least a couple new playgroups in attendance, since there were
many unfamiliar toddlers and moms around. Several friends from my
neighborhood playgroup showed up (look at me! I have friends!) so
Maddie was in heaven, running all over the studio shouting with her
posse. It’s a big complex and toting Cora around as I trail
after Maddie becomes exhausting for me and frustrating for Cora,
who wants nothing more than to be left alone to practice her
round-off back-handsprings, so if I’ve got friends in the
studio I’ll sometimes plop down with Cora and work a
“zone”, keeping an eye on whoever’s in the area
while I know the other moms have got my back.

The girls and I drove my mom to the
airport last week, and I got lost on the way home.


Yes, I grew up here, and yes, I’ve been to the airport a
million times, but cut me some slack: first off, I’ve never
been to my NEW home from the airport (except when we first moved
here from New York and other people were driving so that
didn’t count), only to my childhood home, which is a
different highway; and second, there are a lot of $#@#ing new
highways here since I left twelve years ago!


I figured I’d wing it, not bothering to look up directions;
after all, I got TO the airport just fine, all I had to do was
reverse it! But somehow I ended up meandering through unbuilt toll
roads and half-finished state highways until I was thoroughly
confused. I knew the general direction we wanted to head –
north and east about forty miles – and figured that I’d
eventually run into SOMETHING familiar heading that way, even if it
was Oklahoma, so I just continued driving and pointing the car
towards Points East.

It seems that clothing designers have
finally figured out that moms can still be cool and funny; for the
past few years I’ve seen a rush of clever slogan t-shirts
aimed at mothers, and have even reviewed a few of my favorites. But
as the market has become saturated, I’ve been turning down
requests to review new products; there simply didn’t seem
anything new out there except more whiney t-shirts hinting at
overburdened, underappreciated mothers, and I couldn’t find a
reason to encourage you to buy them.


A few weeks ago, though, I stumbled across a new line called href="http://mamaismsgear.com/content/"
target="_blank">Mamaisms, and I liked it so much I actually
wrote to them and asked if I could review their shirts. Their
slogan, “Mamaisms: Because the World Needs A Dose Of Common
Sense” resonates with me, the shirts are good quality, and
more important, they put their money where their mouth is.

We’re officially suburbanites now:
we’ve got a backyard swing set.


I’m not sure who was looking forward to it more - Maddie, or
Daddy. He’s one of those good guys whose dream of
“making it” is being able to provide each kid with her
own room, a back yard to play in, and a swing set to while away the
hours. So with the arrival of the swing set last week, Brian is
officially living his dream life. (Though if I’m being
totally honest, there’d probably be a big screen t.v.
somewhere in his dream house, too – sorry, honey. So close to
your dream life, yet so far.)

Something’s beeping.
Something’s beeping that shouldn’t be.


I pry my eyes open and search for the noise, finally realizing
it’s Cora’s monitor. But the monitor only beeps when it
loses its base signal, so what’s going on? What time is it,
anyway? I look at my clock and see it’s out. Ah,
power’s out. Mystery solved.


But if the power’s out, why are strobe lights going off in
the room? I swing out of bed, grabbing the emergency flashlight by
my bed. And then a third question hits me – why is someone
throwing pebbles at our window?


My brain finally catches up with my senses, and I realize our
windows are banging fiercely in the wind. The hail is assaulting
the window panes, and the lightning’s flashing too fast for
us to figure out which thunder crack goes with which lightning
bolt. My husband and I look at each other, and fear starts to snake
in my belly. I look out our bedroom windows and see our pear trees,
nearly horizontal. I see the sky flashing back and forth between
pale white and sickly green. And that’s when I know.

Yeah, beep beep.


Sorry, just had to finish out the song lyric –


Yes, it’s official. At ten and a half months, Cora is
walking.

My previous entry was about feeding
finicky toddlers, and the feedback fell into two categories: 1)
“I feel terrible in comparison since you make things from
scratch and I’m serving up Kraft Mac ‘N Cheese most
nights”; and 2) “We want more details!”


So first off, don’t feel bad if you don’t do everything
just like me. Keep in mind I’m home all day and have the time
to cook that moms who work outside the home often don’t. I
make cheese crackers from scratch because a) I like to, and b)
after eight months of unemployment last year, I’m very very
cheap. And finally, don’t feel bad because I cracked open the
blue box last week myself; my kids don’t always eat like
pro-biotic, all-organic angels.


As for the request for more detailed suggestions, here goes!

Hey Jessica – this one’s for
you! Sorry it took so long for me to cover this topic – you
know how it is.


When Maddie was a baby and doing the whole pureed food thing, I
thought I was Magic Mommy: she’d eat pretty much anything I
gave her. I was pureeing broccoli, spinach, asparagus – you
name it, she’d good-naturedly allow me to spoon it into her
mouth. As per the doctor’s instructions, I was giving Maddie
a protein, a fruit, and a vegetable at every meal (with the
occasional starch thrown in as accompaniment) and I naively assumed
we’d continue this way for the rest of her life. I had hazy,
romantic visions of a four-year-old Maddie placidly eating her
lentils and brussel sprouts without comment, and honestly
couldn’t see what all the fuss was amongst my friends: picky
eaters? What??

I went into Cora’s room yesterday
morning to get her up, looked into the crib at the cooing baby, and
thought, “Who are YOU?”


Am I the only one, or does everyone else see their babies change
overnight? They go to bed looking like themselves, and wake up
looking like someone else. I mean, I know that I don’t see
changes as blatantly as people who only see my kids infrequently
– say, once a month or something. I expect to look back at
old photos and be shocked at how different Cora looks, especially
in this first year when she changes so much. But there are times
when those changes seem to happen overnight.

When we lived in New York, Maddie and I
went for play dates all across the city thanks to church friends
scattered throughout the five boroughs (and even –gasp- New
Jersey). I loved visiting our friends in their homes and getting a
chance to hang and chat in a controlled environment – no
worrying about a kid running too far away or talking to strangers
or whatever. I also enjoyed simply seeing my friends’ homes
and getting ideas for creative ways to cram more crap into a tiny
space, or new ways to make the house look cool with no cash: in New
York, it’s pretty difficult to make enough money to do the
whole “designer” decorating look, and we all had homes
filled with flea-market finds and hand-me-downs. And as much as I
my friends and I are alike, our homes were all very different.


Since I’ve been in Texas I’ve been going to a playgroup
comprised of pretty much all families in my subdivision. And while
I’ve never been much for the “Keeping Up With the
Joneses” syndrome, I can feel it creeping into my psyche
now.

I made one of my stand-by recipes last
night – a creamy fettucine with asparagus I got from href="http://www.everydayfoodmagazine.com" target="_blank">Everyday
Food a couple years ago (which, by the way, is a great
magazine to subscribe to, since they try to do seasonal foods and
under 30 minute prep times – way more realistic than Martha
Stewart!). And I realized once again what a great meal it is, and
why it’s on my short list: it can feed older babies and
finicky toddlers, but has a taste adults love as well; and
it’s got veggies built in, so all I have to do is add a side
of fruit and we’re done. I divided up the meal for Cora
– pasta, cut-up asparagus, and peaches all finger-friendly on
her tray – but left it mixed for Maddie to fork “all by
herself” in a bowl. Both of them cleaned their plates.